Last Snuggles, Last Smiles, Last Sighs

baby s feet on brown wicker basket

1 Samuel 1:27–28 (ESV) “For this child I prayed, and the Lord has granted me my petition that I made to him. Therefore I have lent him to the Lord. As long as he lives, he is lent to the Lord.”

You are not bone of my bones, or flesh of my flesh, but you are heart of my heart. My prayer, as you go, is that your life will become one with God in the Spirit of Christ. I love you little boy, you are my son. You are loved no less than any other precious son we have.

We prayed for you. For two years, we thought of that first foster placement. Not knowing that God had you in mind all along. He’s used you to answer all my questions about being a foster father. Could I love someone else’s child like I love our biological children? Would I accept you as part of our household? Would I be able to graft you into the tree of our family? I’ve been reminded of 2 Corinthians…

2 Corinthians 1:20 (ESV) “For all the promises of God find their Yes in him. That is why it is through him that we utter our Amen to God for his glory.”

The answers to all my questions were yes. I think this is because my questions all find their foundation in God’s promises to us in Christ. Does God love us, born of men, as He would His own children? Absolutely Yes. Does He accept us as part of His household when He adopts us? Absolutely Yes. Is He able to graft us into His family, as blood brothers with Christ, so that there is no visible line between us and Him? Absolutely Yes. And so God’s spirit has moved in me with you, little boy. And today we enjoy our last snuggles, last smiles and last little sighs with the ache of letting you go safely to your new family.

Little boy, our Heavenly Father has used you to teach me about His heart. I pray He’s used me to teach you likewise. In creating us, God knew the risk. He knew His heart would be broken. In welcoming you, for all the hope we had of maybe not needing to say goodbye, we now know the similar aching affection I’m sure God has felt repeatedly. I know it’s not exactly the same. For our Lord’s grace has given us a glimpse not of pain, but of loving people through His eyes. Yet, I’m staggered by the heart of God, the depth of His never-ending love for all of us. I pray, little boy, that one day you would be able to celebrate and proclaim the same.

It’s to a good family and to a good place you go. A place of love and belonging. I believe that. We will lay you in your basket upon the waters, with hope and joy at having had you for a little while. We’ve prayed for you to come and we will pray for you daily as you drift on your way. We hold to the belief that we’ve at least changed your life by a degree. We hold to the Lord’s varied angle, that God’s slight alteration of your course will accumulate over your life to a very different destiny than you would have had. And for now, knowing that through God’s Will, by His Word and in His Way, we’ve held you, we can say goodbye and always know, you are most certainly loved.

The Creators of the World

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“My own mind is my own church.”
Thomas Paine, The Age of Reason, 1794

The Scientific Revolution of the 1500’s and 1600’s gave birth to the “Age of Enlightenment” in the mid 1600’s to the late 1700’s. During the Enlightenment the masses began using the scientific method, the way of reason and rationality, as tools of cultural formation. The United States was born because of enlightenment thinking. The Declaration of Independence and US Constitution emerged from the minds of people who wholly believed in reason over magic and superstition. Some of the founders even held rationality and logic as superior to religious faith.

The Enlightenment age led to the Romantic Era (Mid/Late 1800’s to Early 1900’s) which gave way to the Modern Era (1900’s to Mid/Late 1900’s) and then post-Modernism (Late 1900’s to Now). Each era contains remnants of the ones that came before. Over time, major ideas of the former eras die-off while some are kept. We find that today’s thinking has become an “ala carte” venture with smatterings of past thought intermixed with current cultural experience.

The above quote by Thomas Paine is a great example. As people in the new millennium dive deeper into their lived experiences for meaning and identity, we see Paine’s point playing out. We see people worshipping at a “church” of their own mind. They fall in love with, or perhaps despise, their own thoughts, seeking to express, and be affirmed for what flows from their mental altars. At the same time, reason and logic are tossed aside as they arrive at “authentic selves” which often do not match up with facts and reason. Paine’s rejection of God is present in today’s minds while magic and superstition remain; all wrapped in a tight cloak of rationalization over rationalism. They might quote “science” while using none of the scientific method. They might mention evolution while ignoring the engines of Darwin’s theory. For a rational person, it looks like madness. But it’s the grim result of lives spent untethered from concrete meaning which has led to our own 21st Century self-determination. Our fellow human beings truly believe they are creating their own worlds.

We know that culture has largely left enlightenment thinking when our publicly elected officials begin not only affirming these created identities but promoting them as moral, legislating in their favor and enforcing the subsequent laws against detractors. The Enlightenment promised eyes opened and awakened minds to the rational truths surrounding all people. Now that the Enlightenment tenets of reason and logic are dying in American culture, we watch as the blind lead the blind from their corrupted minds to ruinous ends for all who follow them.

What’s a Christian to do?

Christianity has survived every emergence of philosophy and debate since Christ ascended. Belief in the Lord God advanced century to century before the birth of Jesus as the Israelites faced kings, kingdoms, war, exile, and devastation. This is due to what each generation of human beings has come to believe as the foundation of real salvation under God. The endurance of the Christian view of the world begins in one place. There is one God. This God is Lord. This God is Savior. What spans human history, age to age, is the knowledge of and belief in the God of the Bible. Following the fault line of faith in the one true God through the years, we find believers in each generation not just a part of philosophy, art, music, science, medicine, and education, but as pioneers in all disciplines.

The culture will sway proclaiming brave new boundaries broken and “new selves” revealed to the rest of the world. We must remember the human struggle is age old and has not changed. It’s always been the opposite of a staring contest between God and people. He’s desperate to catch our gaze, while we repeatedly look away. God has revealed Himself in each generation of recorded history to the creatures He’s made. But these creatures have decided they’d rather be Him than serve and worship Him. We’d rather be the creators of worlds than subject to the one who’s created the world.

The statements of liberation and independence we hear in culture are nothing new, therefore as human thinking allegedly progresses, we find ourselves still limited, still stuck in what we are. We try to define ourselves by what we do or how we are, yet we find that we are nothing more than we’ve always been, God’s wayward children that He’s calling home. And God, He’s still God, He’s still in control and He’s reaching for all in every era through Jesus Christ.

Suffering is the Most Powerful Love

Last night, my son came to me with his Bible open. He’d played the “Magic 8-ball” game with the scripture (as kids do). He chose a random book, a random chapter, and a random verse to read and think about before praying and heading to bed. He told me, “I needed some Jesus tonight before I go to sleep.” His facial expression told me he had a question. He pointed to this verse.

1 Peter 3:14 (ESV) “But even if you should suffer for righteousness’ sake, you will be blessed. Have no fear of them, nor be troubled,”

He was confused. The context of this verse is the Apostle Peter’s teaching to the early Church about being loving and compassionate to others while focusing on doing what is good before the Lord. It’s a teaching that helps us understand the role of good deeds and loving others as Christ followers amid opposition and persecution. Verse 14 troubled him. He asked me why Christians could suffer for doing what is good, right, and true. He was hung up on a notion that God would allow goodness in his people to be punished. He questioned how suffering could come from always trying to do what is good and avoiding evil.

It wasn’t the first time I’d heard this question from someone because it’s an inescapable thought that many people have. We are taught and come to believe that good behavior deserves good outcomes. Oddly, while many people believe this, it’s not true about the world. Life does not return goodness or evil to us based on our doing good or doing evil. Admittedly, we do see some good results from doing good things. But doing good in no way guarantees a life without pain or suffering.

We may ask, “Why do bad things happen to good people?” This is still a good question because it leads us eventually to a determination about God. The question assumes there is a system in place in the universe that returns good experiences when we do what we believe to be good. It’s like a big cosmic vending machine. When that vending machine breaks down, we tend to smack it around and decry the evil of a system that hasn’t given us what we are owed. The broken cosmic vending machine causes us to declare that someone now is in our debt, but God is clear, He and this world owe us nothing. (Romans 11:33-35)

Why does God allow suffering for those who’d seek only to do good and avoid evil? It’s because God is interested in us being the givers of authentic sacrificial love. He wants that powerful love to draw all people to a right relationship with Him.

Consider what Jesus says in Matthew chapter 5.

Matthew 5:44–46 (ESV) “But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have?…”

Here the Lord Jesus says we are to love our enemies. We are to pray for those who’d oppose us and cause us to suffer. Only real love does such things. True goodness loves and prays for others even when they are the source of our pain. We are true children of our Father in heaven when we love those who don’t love us back. And when our doing of goodness and love relies on the vending machine returning the favor, it questions the authenticity of the good we are doing.

But God wants us to do good because it’s His good, not due to anything we get in return. He wants us to owe others nothing but to love them. (Romans 13:8) And he doesn’t want us believing that He or the cosmos owes us anything in return.

I told my son we emulate Jesus when we do good things for the reason that God is good and not for anything we get out of it. Whether we suffer or not shouldn’t change our desire to still love like Christ loves. For on the cross, He showed us this love and goodness. Jesus went willingly for people who’d caused him to suffer, doing the ultimate good for all humanity and He didn’t do it for Himself. He did it for us. And that love is powerful.