Last Snuggles, Last Smiles, Last Sighs

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1 Samuel 1:27–28 (ESV) “For this child I prayed, and the Lord has granted me my petition that I made to him. Therefore I have lent him to the Lord. As long as he lives, he is lent to the Lord.”

You are not bone of my bones, or flesh of my flesh, but you are heart of my heart. My prayer, as you go, is that your life will become one with God in the Spirit of Christ. I love you little boy, you are my son. You are loved no less than any other precious son we have.

We prayed for you. For two years, we thought of that first foster placement. Not knowing that God had you in mind all along. He’s used you to answer all my questions about being a foster father. Could I love someone else’s child like I love our biological children? Would I accept you as part of our household? Would I be able to graft you into the tree of our family? I’ve been reminded of 2 Corinthians…

2 Corinthians 1:20 (ESV) “For all the promises of God find their Yes in him. That is why it is through him that we utter our Amen to God for his glory.”

The answers to all my questions were yes. I think this is because my questions all find their foundation in God’s promises to us in Christ. Does God love us, born of men, as He would His own children? Absolutely Yes. Does He accept us as part of His household when He adopts us? Absolutely Yes. Is He able to graft us into His family, as blood brothers with Christ, so that there is no visible line between us and Him? Absolutely Yes. And so God’s spirit has moved in me with you, little boy. And today we enjoy our last snuggles, last smiles and last little sighs with the ache of letting you go safely to your new family.

Little boy, our Heavenly Father has used you to teach me about His heart. I pray He’s used me to teach you likewise. In creating us, God knew the risk. He knew His heart would be broken. In welcoming you, for all the hope we had of maybe not needing to say goodbye, we now know the similar aching affection I’m sure God has felt repeatedly. I know it’s not exactly the same. For our Lord’s grace has given us a glimpse not of pain, but of loving people through His eyes. Yet, I’m staggered by the heart of God, the depth of His never-ending love for all of us. I pray, little boy, that one day you would be able to celebrate and proclaim the same.

It’s to a good family and to a good place you go. A place of love and belonging. I believe that. We will lay you in your basket upon the waters, with hope and joy at having had you for a little while. We’ve prayed for you to come and we will pray for you daily as you drift on your way. We hold to the belief that we’ve at least changed your life by a degree. We hold to the Lord’s varied angle, that God’s slight alteration of your course will accumulate over your life to a very different destiny than you would have had. And for now, knowing that through God’s Will, by His Word and in His Way, we’ve held you, we can say goodbye and always know, you are most certainly loved.

The Creators of the World

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“My own mind is my own church.”
Thomas Paine, The Age of Reason, 1794

The Scientific Revolution of the 1500’s and 1600’s gave birth to the “Age of Enlightenment” in the mid 1600’s to the late 1700’s. During the Enlightenment the masses began using the scientific method, the way of reason and rationality, as tools of cultural formation. The United States was born because of enlightenment thinking. The Declaration of Independence and US Constitution emerged from the minds of people who wholly believed in reason over magic and superstition. Some of the founders even held rationality and logic as superior to religious faith.

The Enlightenment age led to the Romantic Era (Mid/Late 1800’s to Early 1900’s) which gave way to the Modern Era (1900’s to Mid/Late 1900’s) and then post-Modernism (Late 1900’s to Now). Each era contains remnants of the ones that came before. Over time, major ideas of the former eras die-off while some are kept. We find that today’s thinking has become an “ala carte” venture with smatterings of past thought intermixed with current cultural experience.

The above quote by Thomas Paine is a great example. As people in the new millennium dive deeper into their lived experiences for meaning and identity, we see Paine’s point playing out. We see people worshipping at a “church” of their own mind. They fall in love with, or perhaps despise, their own thoughts, seeking to express, and be affirmed for what flows from their mental altars. At the same time, reason and logic are tossed aside as they arrive at “authentic selves” which often do not match up with facts and reason. Paine’s rejection of God is present in today’s minds while magic and superstition remain; all wrapped in a tight cloak of rationalization over rationalism. They might quote “science” while using none of the scientific method. They might mention evolution while ignoring the engines of Darwin’s theory. For a rational person, it looks like madness. But it’s the grim result of lives spent untethered from concrete meaning which has led to our own 21st Century self-determination. Our fellow human beings truly believe they are creating their own worlds.

We know that culture has largely left enlightenment thinking when our publicly elected officials begin not only affirming these created identities but promoting them as moral, legislating in their favor and enforcing the subsequent laws against detractors. The Enlightenment promised eyes opened and awakened minds to the rational truths surrounding all people. Now that the Enlightenment tenets of reason and logic are dying in American culture, we watch as the blind lead the blind from their corrupted minds to ruinous ends for all who follow them.

What’s a Christian to do?

Christianity has survived every emergence of philosophy and debate since Christ ascended. Belief in the Lord God advanced century to century before the birth of Jesus as the Israelites faced kings, kingdoms, war, exile, and devastation. This is due to what each generation of human beings has come to believe as the foundation of real salvation under God. The endurance of the Christian view of the world begins in one place. There is one God. This God is Lord. This God is Savior. What spans human history, age to age, is the knowledge of and belief in the God of the Bible. Following the fault line of faith in the one true God through the years, we find believers in each generation not just a part of philosophy, art, music, science, medicine, and education, but as pioneers in all disciplines.

The culture will sway proclaiming brave new boundaries broken and “new selves” revealed to the rest of the world. We must remember the human struggle is age old and has not changed. It’s always been the opposite of a staring contest between God and people. He’s desperate to catch our gaze, while we repeatedly look away. God has revealed Himself in each generation of recorded history to the creatures He’s made. But these creatures have decided they’d rather be Him than serve and worship Him. We’d rather be the creators of worlds than subject to the one who’s created the world.

The statements of liberation and independence we hear in culture are nothing new, therefore as human thinking allegedly progresses, we find ourselves still limited, still stuck in what we are. We try to define ourselves by what we do or how we are, yet we find that we are nothing more than we’ve always been, God’s wayward children that He’s calling home. And God, He’s still God, He’s still in control and He’s reaching for all in every era through Jesus Christ.

Christians! Beware the Victory Lap

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I am pro-life. I believe that abortion is in no way a satisfactory answer to unplanned pregnancy.

Yesterday the US Supreme Court effectively overturned Roe v. Wade in the decision Dobbs v. Jackson Women’s Health.

The decision was met with celebration and alarm as social media, news outlets and live feeds brimmed with responses from single words and sentences to paragraph long rants and sharply constructed memes.

Many Christians decided to create or share posts in “victory” over Roe v. Wade. I saw Christian people declare that we’d won. Some crowed that our opposition (i.e. those who’d support abortion rights, the legislators and governors, our next door neighbors) had fallen and that the cause of Christ had triumphed.

Here’s the problem. Abortion is still legal in the US. Only now, it’s the state legislatures that will determine it’s legality, not the Federal Government. Don’t believe me? Look here.

Today women are still making appointments to have their pregnancies terminated. The question in the US is not if abortion is legal or illegal. The question is “how legal” abortion is.

Living in Illinois, we see the Midwestern capital for abortion. It’s estimated that we will see an increase of 20-30,000 abortions in the next year alone from women in the surrounding states who’ll seek services here. That would take the number of abortions per year in Illinois closer to 100,000. (1)

The Illinois Reproductive Health Act (775 ILCS 55) ensured that even if Roe v. Wade fell, Illinois would be among the US leaders in guaranteed abortion rights (details here). In 2017, Illinois Governor Bruce Rauner eliminated the trigger law which would go into effect when Roe v. Wade failed. So when current Illinois Governor JB Pritzker said yesterday that an “extremist court” bent on causing an increase in back alley abortions risked lives due to the Dobbs decision, he’s basically signaling to the rest of the Midwest that Illinois is doubling down and increasing it’s commitment to abortion rights.

So no, abortion has not been made illegal. In the five states that surround Illinois, only two have eliminated abortion for any reason except the life of the mother. And those in Arkansas and Missouri who are seeking an abortion for any other reason will find one not only in Illinois, but in Kansas, Wisconsin, Indiana, Kentucky and Iowa. (2)

Christians and pro-life advocates, please abstain from taking a victory lap. The job is not done by a long shot.

We need to shut off the valve in order to stop the flow. Roe v. Wade is done. But the effort must now change into making abortion unthinkable, to eradicate the perceived need in the hearts of men and women for abortion. It’s a reality that many people believe that abortion of a child is the only answer to unplanned pregnancy. We must work to change that perception.

If we are Pro-Life, are we Pro-Foster care? Pro-Fatherhood? Pro-Truth Based Education? Are we willing to offer help to prospective parents with substance abuse problems or financial problems? Are we willing to raise the babies born to people who cannot raise them alone? What are we prepared to do to make abortion an inessential last resort?

The bigger question to the Church is do we believe the Gospel of Jesus Christ? If so, we know that complex issues can neither be abolished nor advanced with the stroke of a judicial pen because human problems are based in sin and not on social or legal dogma. We cannot legislate (or de-legislate) morality.

Instead of declaring victory, let’s continue to declare the same state of emergency that Christ declared until He returns.(3) People are dying each day without knowing the God who made them through faith in Jesus Christ. While the demise of Roe v. Wade is a battle won. It’s only one battle in the much larger war being waged for the souls of each human being, born or unborn.